We abided by the rules and I would think it reasonable for the other team to have to abide by the rules.
It started with neof my Korean playesr who after breaking everyone up said ... "all I said coach was 'good game'" then he smiled...
I asked another player from Korea what he said - he said "something like your mother smells like goat." The whole team got a good laugh - and the player sat the bench for a game.
I would tell a coach in no uncertain terms that my 8 year old son was not to take part in a post-game prayer. I don't think sports is the proper place for religous displays.
--Unless its a church team I'd agree that prayers have no place in the team routine. You have no idea what all your kids beliefs may be. I really don't understand the dozens of posts against handshaking though. We already know you think its pointless, Ed. Unless you think it is shomehow actively harmfull to the kids - and I can't imagine how it would be - then cusading against it and turning the thread into one long argument between you and everyone else is pretty pointless. BTW this is not new. We did it when I played Little League in the 60s and the kids I coach now do it pretty much the same way. So far I've never had a kid complain about it or any issues between kids on the other team during the postgame hand shakes.
Ed, have you been in Tuscaloosa very long? BTW, I thought they all prayed to Bear Bryant.
It reinforces in that generation (The Everyone-gets-a-trophy/Me First Generation) more of what will be their downfall; that they will be rewarded simply for showing up and not putting forth a winning effort. There is an entire generation (those 23 and younger) who have been raised to believe that they are super special just because they are alive and that life owes them something. Those boys learned a terrible lesson in sportsmanship. If I were coaching that team, they would have played the game until the end, win or lose. Winning doesn't feel good unless you earn it.
See ball, hit ball.
PhilliesPhan, the "earn it" statement is troubling. One team, for whatever reason including just not knowing the rule, violated the rules that the game was being held under. Therefore, the team that won did earn it. This has noting to do with the "Age of Entitlement." It has to do with rules of the game/tournament and to suggest that the team that won didn't earn their win is wrong imo.
Granny said Sonny stick to your guns if you believe in something no matter what. Because it's better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you're not.
There have always been, and always will be, people who fit your description. I've known a large number of people from my generation (I'm 42) through sports (and otherwise), and a lot of kids (now young men) through my kids' sports, and the vast majority of them don't fit this description.
I think winning a game on technicality because a rules violation probably sends a bad message to kids and is something that contributes to sports being less fun for kids today than they were in the past when things were less regimented and a lot less adult driven.
1) Play Hard
2)Learn A Lot
3)Be a Good Human
4)Enjoy the Journey
If that makes me a helicopter parent then I am glad I was. My kid turned out great and has good friends and takes care of business. He is now gone to college and taking care of himself and doing a great job of it. On his spring break he came home and actually thanked me for teaching him what I have taught him. Brought a tear to my eye. I then punched him in the arm and told him to quit being a girl.
It is something we do and teach. Honestly, if you don't like it, it doesn't affect me. If a player on a team I coached refused to shake hands after a game. He would not be playing on my team.