AGREED! I've spent a lot of time this year especially in conversation with my son on how to approach conversations with coaches, teachers. and other adults. I'm willing to give him advice and pleased he comes to me to talk about stuff and brainstorm the right way to act. In the end though, he's reached the age where at least preliminary contact has to be made by him.
Originally Posted by tg643
Doesn't necessarily pertain to this situation, but in a way it does. One thing that I've talked about with my son is continually developing a more arm's length relationship with his teachers and coaches. In other words, it's ok to initiate conversation with adults. There's times when this should be the case, but quite often kids shy away or are not quite ready I suppose.
An example is when his grandpa brought him to a field maintenance day and he too stayed to help out. I told my son that his grandpa had done a lot in life and within the community that you should be very proud to introduce him to the coaches. I hope he would've thought to do this anyway, but because I consider him a young adult and new opportunities and challenges present themselves every day - I want to help him do the right thing and get used to doing the right thing.
I also told him look, if you know your science teacher or your baseball coach has a strong interest in something you do too, bring it up. If you know they're a Duke basketball fan and are following the NCAA tournament, and you've got Duke going to the Final 4 in your bracket - When Duke gets knocked out in the first round you and your teacher have something in common. That upset blew up both of your brackets. My point is that it's better to have the first conversation with your science teacher be about this than disagreeing about a grade or whether an absence should be excused or not. Lay the ground work on a positive note. Hopefully you have countless chit chat about all positive and stimulating matters and never have to have a difficult discussion. If you do though, it should be much easier. You may even get the benefit of the doubt if there's some background to go on for them.
There are two kinds of losers.....Those that don't do what they are told, and those that do only what they are told.