I think this all goes back to the sterotypical world we live in, and in line with what wondermonkey said
it is all about how we react to someone who genuinely admires someone who is able behave/react/speak outside the "norm". Some people will accept that it was a compliment because they understand the sterotypical world we live in, while others reject such comments as complimentary because they expect everyone else to live outside the 'norm'. We really have to face it - we live in a sterotypical world, and we have to just accept that, and plug away at trying to change it - not by being offended and getting upset, but by proving ourselves. As I stated previously, we have all stereotyped someone else at some stage during our lives. Perhaps the fact that NotAboutEgo was able to show this guy that some women do know as much about baseball as him may just change his apparent stereotyping of women and baseball, and he will now respect that women are capable of being part of what was probably once seen as a male's domain (and probably will always be to those who chose not to move out of the 'norm'). Hope I make sense here.
that anytime you are doing something that is outside of the accepted "norm" then a compliment for doing it can be potentially hurtful
I will now be on the lookout for bartenders wearing a red hat!!
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