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"How many well-adjusted adults do you know who were raised by micromanaging parents?,"
..... Dan Doyle, former college basketball coach and consultant for the Center for Sports Parenting.
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"On matters of playing time and strategy, stay out of it," he says. "On matters of ethics, jump in."
"With intrusive behavior, parents are robbing kids of the journey to self-reliance. The neighborhood basketball court of my youth was a place of social justice where you would negotiate and compromise. That was taken away by micromanaging parents."
To the parent convinced that a coach is unfairly denying his child playing time, Doyle goes beyond his "stay out of it" advice. If the child is also upset, Doyle advises, encourage him to speak to the coach and, instead of complaining, ask what he can do to improve enough to earn more game time.
"I never once talked to one of my children's coaches. Not that I wasn't tempted. It was good for my kids to deal with their coaches. I said, 'I'll be there for you to give advice,' " Doyle says. "I knew there was a lot of value to the disappointing aspect of sport. I did not want my children to go undefeated in their sports careers. I wanted them to have a wide span of experience."
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What amazes me is the youth sports experience is so out of control in some places, there's a market for experts in the field of youth sports development.
..... Dan Doyle, former college basketball coach and consultant for the Center for Sports Parenting.
Other comments ....
"On matters of playing time and strategy, stay out of it," he says. "On matters of ethics, jump in."
"With intrusive behavior, parents are robbing kids of the journey to self-reliance. The neighborhood basketball court of my youth was a place of social justice where you would negotiate and compromise. That was taken away by micromanaging parents."
To the parent convinced that a coach is unfairly denying his child playing time, Doyle goes beyond his "stay out of it" advice. If the child is also upset, Doyle advises, encourage him to speak to the coach and, instead of complaining, ask what he can do to improve enough to earn more game time.
"I never once talked to one of my children's coaches. Not that I wasn't tempted. It was good for my kids to deal with their coaches. I said, 'I'll be there for you to give advice,' " Doyle says. "I knew there was a lot of value to the disappointing aspect of sport. I did not want my children to go undefeated in their sports careers. I wanted them to have a wide span of experience."
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What amazes me is the youth sports experience is so out of control in some places, there's a market for experts in the field of youth sports development.
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