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    I thought I'd start another thread because I'm bored, and you people just can't get enough of my perspectives on youth sports.

    I am mild-mannered and easy-going. But I have little tolerance for annoying parents. I seem to have a few every season. This year has been no different.

    I just want to know why baseball players are so insane. I just spent 30 minutes watching parents and coaches throwing tantrums at games. Of course, I've seen my share of it in person, too.

    Here are some examples of things I've dealt with just this fall:

    1. Mom has two boys on the team. One "broke" his arm and mysteriously couldn't play for two weeks. He wore a brace for one week. Then he announced that his arm had healed. He sat in the dugout before two games, saw that the pitcher was throwing hard and announced that he didn't feel good. In our most recent game, I didn't know that he had slipped away until I went to the scorekeeper and spotted him in the bleachers. He left the game after being hit by a pitch. That's understandable. But his mom wasn't there to watch him. She had left her two kids at the game. I have no idea where she went.

    2. I have a mom. Oh my. You're going to enjoy this. She took a camera phone photo of herself in lingerie and somehow sent it to the mother of another player. This mom also punched my assistant coach in the arm one day because a mosquito had landed on him. This mom also has asked my wife twice if she needed some pain medicine for her sore back. This mom also waits until I'm on my way to practice to let me know that her kid needs a ride. And she does it all the time.

    3. I also have Special K. You may recall him from another thread. A few games ago, he decided that he was going to bribe the kids to play well. He brought Twix bars to the game. Then he tried to give each kid a Twix bar before the start of the game. Can you imagine how thirsty they would be after eating a candy bar? Special K's list could be as long as the hills. He has not been to a batting practice in more than a month but has somehow decided that his 15-second talks to batters before they go to the on-deck circle is the cause of their success. He also recently decided that his son is going to start playing the field and pitching left-handed even though he has never been left-handed and does just fine as a righty.

    4. I have a mom with a small child. She uses this child as an excuse. She drops off her kid for practice and leaves. Then I have to call her when we're finished. Some days, she does not answer. And I have to take him home.

    5. I have a mom who just started complaining about some nonsense regarding her son and my coaching. She thinks I'm too critical of him because I told him to remember to drop to his knees to block balls. Her father has been sitting in the bleachers criticizing me and bad-mouthing players since the start of the season. When I showed her husband what she had written to me, he replied in all caps and said that he hates her, can't stand to be with her, can't have friends because she will not allow it and wants to divorce her but isn't doing it because he doesn't want to hurt the kids, who he adopted last year.

    6. Mom is in drug rehab, and grandma is taking care of the player. One day, he was playing a game of punch your teammates in the nuts in the dugout, and I scolded him. I told grandma, and she acted like it was funny. A few weeks later, his dad brought him to practice, and the kid pulled down a really quiet, shy kid's pants. I talked to dad about it, and he just said that the boy lives with his grandma and that I'll have to talk to her.

    7. Mom was working on a Saturday. So dad shows up with the player. The kid says his stomach hurts in the first inning, and I have to replace him. Later, I find him eating lunch in the dugout. It's 2 p.m., and the kid is eating his first meal of the deal. He left the field because he was hungry and thirsty. Dad didn't bother to feed him. A week later, the league tells me that mom hasn't paid her registration. Then she calls to tell me that her son isn't going to play. Presumably, it's because she can't pay his registration. I felt bad and offered to pay it but received no response.

    I don't know if that's a lot for one season. The other coaches have knowledge of most of the parents. So they are able to avoid the ones they know to be annoying. I was blindsided by four of the five I mention. One was a known issue, and I elected to accept her because her son is buddies with my boy and he is talented.

  • #2
    Wow, where do you live...I've always had one, maybe two parents with issues...never this many though.

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    • #3
      What philly said! Geez man, that's crazy. My kid is on one of the "bottom" teams this year, but I still love it. The coach actually cares about the kids' development and plays them everywhere. He gives the kids that WANT to pitch the chance. He doesn't know a ton, but his heart is absolutely in the right place. I've heard of no complaints from anyone. Everyone is nice to everyone else. Sometimes parents from other teams can be loud and boisterous, but I've never seen anyone get angry and throw fits. Some kids don't make it to practice or to games, but that's just rec league.

      And people wonder why I don't want to coach. LOL

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      • #4
        Didn't you say you was coaching down there in the middle of Florida somewhere? If so, hail, you just gotta get used to it. Shoot, relatively speaking you got it good. At least the boys aint eating them windshield flies. Whadda you call them things agin?
        Major Figure

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        • #5
          Is this as league team or travel team?

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          • #6
            This is a fall ball rec team. There are five teams in our division. I'm the new guy. I think the other coaches knew about parent issues with some of the players I selected.

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            • #7
              Heinie,
              You have allowed way too much drama to slip into your duggout!! Although very interesting stories.
              Last edited by Jake Patterson; 10-24-2012, 06:54 AM.
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              • #8
                Originally posted by omg View Post
                Didn't you say you was coaching down there in the middle of Florida somewhere? If so, hail, you just gotta get used to it. Shoot, relatively speaking you got it good. At least the boys aint eating them windshield flies. Whadda you call them things agin?
                Oh yeh, Love Bugs.
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                • #9
                  My Fall ball rec team looked like this:

                  We had one kid who we drafted near the end of the draft. The kid was uncoachable and I had to constantly tell him to quit looking at his dad for advice, when his dad was there. The 2nd pitch of the championship game the dad started mouthing my assistant and they just about threw down.

                  The worst situation was the kid who we drafted in the 5th round that ended up being really good. Big strong kid who could run and he had an arm. He was raw and had never received much coaching. We were making great progress with him and then he started missing practices and showing up 10 minutes before our game (we start hitting an hour before our games). He told me his mom wouldn't bring him to practices. I tried to get him hooked up with a travel team before this started, but he told me his mom wouldn't let him because she wanted to sleep in on the weekends. To me, he is the sad case, because he has the ability and potential to be a really good player.

                  The rest of our group of parents this Fall were really good people and very supportive of their kids and the team.

                  That is one of the big reasons so many people migrate to travel ball, especially the coaches. You don't have to deal with that stuff.
                  Last edited by d-mac; 10-24-2012, 08:58 AM.

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                  • #10
                    --I've only coached 2 seasons but I've never had any of the problems described here. Both years there have been 3-4 Dads who were willing to help with practices and be unofficial assistants (its been me and same assistant both years). All of them have been willing to assist in the ways I've asked them too and, while I'm sure they haven't always agreed with my approach, they have never argued to do things different.
                    --We selected one dad as a base coach and one parent as a scorekeeper each game. No other parents - or anybody not with the team - is allowed in the dugout or on the field during games. Of course some parents are offering advice (to their kids) from the stands, but the kids only hear from me and my assitant close up and don't interact with parents during the game. Kids are not allowed to leave the playing area during games except to go to the bathroom. If there are disclipinary issues during practice or a game those are my responsibility to deal with and fortunately they have never been more than the minor stuff you expect from kids.
                    --I have had parents tell me that there are things their kids really didn't like or really wanted to try, but those have been mostly easily accodated and have not caused problems between me and the parent(s). If there ever is a major issue I would ask that the discussion on those be away from the field and the kid(s).
                    --I've never offered to pick kids up or drive them home and no one has ever asked. Some parents help with practice, some watch and some leave and come back. I've never had to wait more than about 10 minutes after practice (and never after a game) for the last parent who left to return.
                    --Maybe I've just been lucky, but I think alot of your relationship with parents stems from just being clear about what you expect up front. Before practice or games start and once they are over the kids are 100% the parents responsibility and during they are mine.

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                    • #11
                      And your parents are graced with a coach that writes about them in a public blog. Dude?
                      efastball.com - hitting and pitching fact checker

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by omg View Post
                        Oh yeh, Love Bugs.
                        LOL. I knew where you were coming from.

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by songtitle View Post
                          And your parents are graced with a coach that writes about them in a public blog. Dude?
                          Actually, I'm writing about them in my book, which I have been writing here on this site for the past two months. In a few weeks, I'm going to pull together all of my posts and figure out the chapters, and I'm going to spend all of December filling in the holes.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by songtitle View Post
                            And your parents are graced with a coach that writes about them in a public blog. Dude?
                            My thoughts exactly.
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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by HeinekenMan View Post
                              This is a fall ball rec team. There are five teams in our division. I'm the new guy. I think the other coaches knew about parent issues with some of the players I selected.
                              For sure they did.
                              This happens all the time in my area too.
                              My sons hockey coach last year got stuck with a number of those kids as well. We never won a game, and in each game we lost by an average of 20 goals.
                              Thank goodness the coach was a great guy with tonnes of patience who only cared that the kids had fun and improved.
                              But he was new to the area so he had no idea which kids were good ones or bad ones, so the other coaches screwed him over.

                              I've had some poor parents over my years of coaching as well and the one that really annoys me is the one that drops the kid off and is never around to pick them up.
                              Because of the times and the amount of Sandusky stories happen, I refuse to be left alone with any of the kids.
                              So I force another parent to stick around with me until the parent finally comes to pick them up.
                              It's funny how some parents don't care what the coach thinks, or that they're wasting their time, but for some reason they give a crap about what the other parents think. So by making another parent wait, they get embarrassed and it usually never happens again.

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